tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post9212701576124875790..comments2023-10-16T16:18:08.461+01:00Comments on Living with Agoraphobia: Battles, both emotional and physicalLynnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16985336897832589441noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-75627469076026463532012-09-28T22:02:07.516+01:002012-09-28T22:02:07.516+01:00Omg you really have been through it, i know what y...Omg you really have been through it, i know what you mean about sociopath from your other blog entry now, congratulations on your brothers send off you made a wonderfull memory through doing that i think i completely natural to be feeling the way you do about your brother going, you cry and let the emotion out its natural :), you really do have alot of determinationa nd inner strength even if you dont feel it at times but it's amazing, i wish i knew you cos you seen like such positive inspiring person to be around, all this things your doing, fitness classes, having a night out every now and then, going round your freinds and to the park, driving is all giving you more of a life xxmental health girlhttp://www.mentalhealthy.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-36273296782864385812012-08-14T14:59:30.791+01:002012-08-14T14:59:30.791+01:00Jeeez, traumatic times, thanks for sharing - your ...Jeeez, traumatic times, thanks for sharing - your writing is vivid, open and honest! xThe Kid In The Front Rowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11284758898483746863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-74317053350407481312012-08-11T07:49:02.131+01:002012-08-11T07:49:02.131+01:00Hi Susanna, I've just read your comment. I too...Hi Susanna, I've just read your comment. I too developed an anxiety disorder earlier this year. It more or less came out of the blue, and, like you, I had been a pretty confident person also and was desperate to get my life back! I'm delighted to say that I have basically gotten rid of my anxiety problems after what was probably the hardest few months of my life. <br /><br />I didn't medicate and I'm not into psycho-babble - it was just a case of identifying what it was that I was actually scared of, facing those fears (for me this was leaving the house and not being afraid of having a panic attack), and learning that I could get through the panic and come out perfectly fine on the other side. My panic and fear became irrelevant once I realised that it didn't actually mean anything. When it became irrelevant, it disappeared! <br /><br />This is obviously way easier said than done, of course. It took me months of forcing myself to do things I was scared of, knowing that it might result in a panic attack. I believe the worst thing you can do is buy into the fear though. You have to keep pushing yourself to do things that you don't want to do. Literally, don't let the anxiety get to you.<br /><br />The work of Dr Claire Weekes helped me a lot personally. In her books she described my symptoms and explained them. Dr Weekes described a fear-adrenalin-fear cycle, and this was so applicable to my own anxiety problems. I would leave the house and anticipate panic. This anticipation would cause adrenalin to pump through my body which would, in turn, produce my physical symptoms of fear (light-headedness, rapid heartbeat, etc). It took a lot of practice but once I realised that the symptoms of fear were caused purely by my being afraid of them, I was able to go out and face the fear, knowing that it didn't actually mean anything was wrong with me. Eventually, I grew used to being able to leave the house and everything be 'normal' again.<br /><br />I'm not sure whether my abbreviated story will mean much to you or not, but I read your comment and saw myself of a few months ago in it. This is a horrible condition that leaves you in a state of despair, but there truly is a way passed it. I was terrified of it lasting forever but it doesn't have to, but you do have to be prepared to do things you don't want to. It's all worth it in the end though!<br /><br />All the very best,<br />Liz.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-51946643232605239502012-08-11T02:33:01.261+01:002012-08-11T02:33:01.261+01:00AMAZING amazing job getting active and working on ...AMAZING amazing job getting active and working on overcoming. I suffered with this for YEARS and it wasnt until a few years ago in college that I self diagnosed myself and then decided to do something about it. Have you tried doing yoga and meditation?<br />Here's a blog post I wrote about it and how it has literally CURED my severe panic attacks for good.<br />How to rid of hardcore panic attacks for GOOD without medicine and the lady with the strangest illness that has totally ruined me for life. TOTALLY. A Vlog http://www.ashleygoodwinblog.com/overcoming-anxiety/<br /><br /><br />xoashley goodwinhttp://www.ashleygoodwin.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-30721488263816011962012-08-02T15:03:36.745+01:002012-08-02T15:03:36.745+01:00Hi !
Just found your blog after trawling the Inte...Hi ! <br />Just found your blog after trawling the Internet trying to find some answers why I have just developed agoraphobia. I have gone from a confident person into someone who is scared to go into the garden. I want my old life back. I have my own business and luckily work from home. Your blog is an inspiration to me. Just to know someone feels as I do means everything. You are truly amazing. I have mentally noted every one of your positive words. Am so sorry and sad for your recent stresses. Domestic violence is the worst and committed only by bullies and cowards. Keep strong sweetie. <br />Susanna x UK xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-63765645733138722522012-07-23T14:29:40.685+01:002012-07-23T14:29:40.685+01:00I'm not surprised you're suffering anxiety...I'm not surprised you're suffering anxiety. There is no excuse for violence, even under stress. <br /><br />You might like the article I posted this morning - http://azillionideas.com/how-to-talk-to-your-inner-self/ <br /><br />I hope it's of some use.Mikehttp://azillionideas.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-32174591761592890822012-07-04T11:46:13.536+01:002012-07-04T11:46:13.536+01:00No he's never been back to visit because he ca...No he's never been back to visit because he can't really afford it, and also has a wife and child now, and he just seems to have completely turned against the UK. Even if I do ever get to see him again, what could we even talk about besides, as you say in your post, pleasantries and general polite things, we have become strangers who no longer share any part of our lives. I imagine that he views me and my parents as simple peasants who don't fit into his high-flying new life. The whole thing sucks but I try not to think about it so much any more xJennynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-52852578050988340892012-07-04T00:44:40.568+01:002012-07-04T00:44:40.568+01:00Aww Jenny that does sound awful. I know you comple...Aww Jenny that does sound awful. I know you completely understand how I was feeling. Has your brother never been back to visit? I can see the future being similar to yours in that the calls will get less... In fact we haven't spoken yet. Thank goodness for Facebook otherwise I wouldn't know how he is. I hope he visits us though. My patents do plan on visiting him. X <br /><br />Jeff I've reviewed your email but you know me so well. I save all my mails then one night reply to them all. But time runs away and before I know it weeks have past. I really need to get on top of it more. It's nice that you check in though. I promise I will b in touch. I am absolutely fine though. As is Nathan.Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16985336897832589441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-6379094616536713002012-07-03T14:50:51.279+01:002012-07-03T14:50:51.279+01:00I cried reading about your brother leaving :( I we...I cried reading about your brother leaving :( I went through exactly the same thing three years ago when my brother moved abroad. The devastation is so hard to take. I'm agoraphobic too and just like you I know I won't see my brother again so when he left it was like grieving a death. No one could really understand why I felt so heartbroken about it. Just as I knew would happen the emails and phone calls from him have become less and less and my mum hasn't even heard from him since Christmas. He knew what a sad, lonely life I have but chose to turn his back on me completely. In a way that makes it even more painful than a death. Anyway, hope you feel better about it soon, I have slowly started to get over it but reading your post brought it all back. Best wishes xJennynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-25238529813694381052012-06-30T08:44:25.216+01:002012-06-30T08:44:25.216+01:00I am very very sorry for your trouble. I know word...I am very very sorry for your trouble. I know words are of little help with this sort of situation but, i do hope to talk to you again. I have sent you a few e-mails but you have obviously had many much more important things to deal with than a few notes. I am very glad Nathan was asleep for his sake and for yours. Please do send me a note when you are up to it or chat with me on facebook if and when you can make the time. You truly are a lovely girl (inside and out) and definately do not deserve such treatment. Please do keep your blog and other activities going as they are obviously of great help to others.Louishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18245283607497990521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-65609412969558509182012-06-29T00:24:14.815+01:002012-06-29T00:24:14.815+01:00Laura thank you. Your comment really meant the wor...Laura thank you. Your comment really meant the world to me. It's hard work but I do try to keep on going, thinking if I can do it and blog about it, then hopefully it will encourage others. I'm so glad to hear how your getting on. Keep up the good work! It's not easy. It's frustrating that I still have to fight with myself sometimes, but those times become less and less. When you ate housebound you can't believe that you'll ever achieve anything again. But you can and you will. I hope you are really proud of what your doing. Taking the first step is the hardest part!! You made my day by getting in touch so thank you again. Huge hugs xxxxxLynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16985336897832589441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-24080485213933314082012-06-28T06:18:48.230+01:002012-06-28T06:18:48.230+01:00I mostly lurk here but I just wanted to say how ve...I mostly lurk here but I just wanted to say how very sorry I am for what your ex did. No one deserves to be treated that way. Not ever. I also wanted to tell you how proud you should be of not letting his ugly actions stop your amazing progress. <br /><br />This comment is also a thank you of sorts. I look to you as a source of inspiration and as a mentor of sorts as well. I was housebound for about 4 years and in the past few months I've finally begun to get my life back on a more solid footing.<br />I've started exploring my neighborhood on foot and the next step will be small trips in the car.<br /><br />You and your blog have been a great catalyst in pushing myself forward and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for being so honest and so candid about your triumphs and your struggles. I may not comment much (aside from being agoraphobic - I'm super shy) but please know that your words and your perserverance mean the world to so many of us. <br />Thank you for being (((((((you)))))) dear Lynn<br /><br />sending you big hugs and lots of love from the US <br />xxxLauranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-48744968530082835842012-06-24T18:05:50.086+01:002012-06-24T18:05:50.086+01:00Damn posted to early. Belinda we will need to rely...Damn posted to early. Belinda we will need to rely very much on Facebook and Skype. Derek's not very technically minded so we will see how it goes. Thanks for the lovely things you said. <br /><br />Where in Australia are you both. Derek moved to Perth. Not sure I said that I'ln the blog? XxxLynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16985336897832589441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-35097996643462029692012-06-24T18:04:09.221+01:002012-06-24T18:04:09.221+01:00Oh a couple of Aussies!!! How apt. Thanks for your...Oh a couple of Aussies!!! How apt. Thanks for your comments. Cosmic there is nooooo way I will forgive that. No way. It's been maybe 7 weeks now and I am happier. Have more respect for myself and haven't missed him at all. Doesn't that say it all really. And no, there are no excuses. None.Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16985336897832589441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-38787298044952133522012-06-24T09:44:58.646+01:002012-06-24T09:44:58.646+01:00O....M...G!!!!I feel sick after reading that. I c...O....M...G!!!!I feel sick after reading that. I can't believe what that drunken abuser did!! There are NO excuses for his behaviour. You gave him excuses. Please don't do that. I am so worried you could ever forgive him for this. I wanted to make comments about the other things in your blog but I am lost for words after reading you were bashed. It's totally sickening.<br />cosmic (Australia)Cloudyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14208465950110290365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-46843342360300816392012-06-24T05:41:18.717+01:002012-06-24T05:41:18.717+01:00Oh Lynne, first up big hugs with what your ex did ...Oh Lynne, first up big hugs with what your ex did to you and the implications surrounding it all. I hope you've got lots of support around you. You are doing an amazing job coping so well with it all! I hope your ex never lays a finger on you again.<br /><br />Secondly, well done with still keeping up with your gym classes and social events with Nathan. You really are an inspiration! And to be pushing yourself even further from home, well, I think that is incredible!!! Please make sure you take some time for yourself through all this stress though.<br /><br />Thirdly, about your brother shifting here to my homeland (Australia), I have one word ... skype, skype, skype and more skype (okay that was more than one word lol). Hopefully you can keep in touch with him this way and he will still get to see Nathan grow up and they can have lots of little chats together. Dare to dream ... you're already doing things that were once a huge challenge, and you just never know, maybe one day you will make it to Australia. What a lovely thing to do, throwing the farewell party for your brother. It sounds like he really enjoyed it, and it was great that you got to have your first outing like that since Nathan was born.<br /><br />Stay strong, you will get through all this stress at the moment, just take it one day at a time. <br /><br />Thanks again for sharing your blog with us, you really do inispire me.<br /><br />~~Belinda (from Australia)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com