tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post9081960298707531633..comments2023-10-16T16:18:08.461+01:00Comments on Living with Agoraphobia: House Hunting and Gordon RamsayLynnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16985336897832589441noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-39278372389991916052009-10-26T04:28:11.410+00:002009-10-26T04:28:11.410+00:00Lynn,
Yours was the first blog I came across when ...Lynn,<br />Yours was the first blog I came across when I searched for agoraphobia. I was so amazed to see myself in your story. I can't wait until tomorrow when I can show my husband your blog so he can see that someone else feels the same way I do. Don't get me wrong, he's very supportive, but still, I don't think anyone really understands unless they have the same issues. <br />I have learned I must plan ahead to do anything. I must have written directions if I have not driven to the location before, and I only drive up to 30 miles from my home.<br />It is amazing how every once in a while I can do something completely spontaneous and not have anxiety about it. So weird. Anyway, keep up the good work and pushing those boundries! I have delt with this for over 9 years and I just keep chugging away, one day at a time.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07211743806034366930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-65856391056695676562009-10-23T23:41:28.280+01:002009-10-23T23:41:28.280+01:00The real hard thing is that I constantly get mails...The real hard thing is that I constantly get mails from people saying that they were completely depressed and felt alone before they reaf my story. It gave them hope. Maybe theres an agoraphobic out there who doesnt have the internet to talk about this... maybe they would happen to see the article??? I dunnoLynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16985336897832589441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-17249501329083150172009-10-23T23:39:59.975+01:002009-10-23T23:39:59.975+01:00Jason i totally agree with you! I NEVER want to be...Jason i totally agree with you! I NEVER want to be definied by my phobia. There is way more to me than that. Im starting to think its not worth it. Yeh the exposure of the condition might make people see how common it is. But i have to admit that im scared of the small minded people who will just class me as a 'weirdo'. And what if one of those small mminded people lived in my town and shouted stuff in the street.<br /><br />Ok i may be over thinking it but i think you have to. And thats not something i need in my recovery.Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16985336897832589441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-26311359513381927472009-10-23T11:51:59.283+01:002009-10-23T11:51:59.283+01:00The planning ahead might just be giving you a sens...The planning ahead might just be giving you a sense of control over the situation, which might make it feel a little safer.<br /><br />As for the journalist, I can say I probably wouldn't do it because I feel like I need to keep some distance between me and the disorder. Not sure if that makes any sense, but I fear the disorder taking over every aspect of my life. I don't want to be defined by it.<br /><br />On the other hand, I think it's great when people have the courage to tell their story. It helps to remove some of the negative stigma these conditions have and can give people a more positive outlook. <br /><br />Tough choice for sure!Jasonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10137727775471499869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-62426043415865455342009-10-21T23:18:16.775+01:002009-10-21T23:18:16.775+01:00I really dont know what to do. There are 2 reason...I really dont know what to do. There are 2 reasons for me to say yes. Firstly - I thought i was the worlds worst agoraphobic, so it might offer hope to readers. They might see how much I have improved in a year and see that itspossible. The other reason is purely selfish. I have debt and the sum she mentioned would sort that out... or at least help.<br /><br />At the moment i am totally undecided. I dont think it will be a ground breaking piece. Im sure I read a similar article a few years ago about an agoraphobic. Ill continue to think about it.Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16985336897832589441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-12622994450763657462009-10-21T12:41:20.544+01:002009-10-21T12:41:20.544+01:00Tricky issues there Lynn.
On one hand it may wel...Tricky issues there Lynn. <br /><br />On one hand it may well be a sell out, a case of the media trying to turn you into a sort of emotional prostitute. I hate the way the current affairs media do <i>that</i>.<br /><br />On the other hand it's hard to know what your story is actually worth and whether you'd end up signing over the 'rights' to it somehow. I mean, it may one day be worth heaps more than you sell it for to some publisher or film producer who uses it as the basis of a more major $ production (film or book or teleplay or whatever).diverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058592730402414174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-2869312332502058182009-10-21T10:50:31.045+01:002009-10-21T10:50:31.045+01:00hi Diver. Emm im ok with restaurants. I also don...hi Diver. Emm im ok with restaurants. I also dont really worry about panicking in front of people. I dont seem to care what they think as they dont really know me anyway. Its really just travelling to new places that makes me nervous and the thought that i will fail and have to turn back. Also the thought of not beeing able to get home quickly but trying to drive while panicking. Horribl.<br /><br />The journalist HAS offered me a decent amount of money. I would never do it for free. Does that sound awful. Am i a sell out. To be honest it would help with my debts :/Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16985336897832589441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-16821778676545070802009-10-21T07:06:49.391+01:002009-10-21T07:06:49.391+01:00Agree completely about how outings we 'want...Agree completely about how outings we 'want' to attend provoke less anxiety. Those adventures where we're basically just living up to others' expectations, ouch, I find those are the real bitey ones.<br /><br />Interesting thoughts about whether to plan in advance or not. In my case I suffer more when I make plans in advance, and especially as the due date of a planned event gets close. The anticipatory anxiety, ach, hate it. I prefer a <i>really</i> empty diary and the sort-of 'elbow room' to do things spontaneously <i>if I'm in the mood</i> ... works well for me, keeps the anxiety on a very low simmer to 'live that way'.<br /><br />Your nerves over Gerry's birthday puzzled me a bit. Do you suppose it could be the 'set piece' aspect of restaurant eating? I mean, restauranting surely is one of the more claustrophobic social rituals that we agoraphobics face, very hard to escape from for fear of embarrassing ourselves or hurting others' feelings in the process. <br /><br />The journalist? Perhaps a bit intrusive of her to try and objectify you like <i>that</i>. It's no doubt great for her career and may help sell the magazine, but hey, where's your cut? Thousands and thousands of pounds please, that's what I'd be thinking Lynn. I mean, print and TV media makes millions out of peoples' traumas and suffering so why shouldn't they pay you for yours?diverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058592730402414174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-77464742899570733122009-10-21T00:42:55.753+01:002009-10-21T00:42:55.753+01:00Thanks for your comment Agoraphob. I have left a ...Thanks for your comment Agoraphob. I have left a comment on your blog xLynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16985336897832589441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-76227256113576320732009-10-20T23:27:41.773+01:002009-10-20T23:27:41.773+01:00great progress from gerry's bday last year to ...great progress from gerry's bday last year to thi syear! that is awesome! I too get nervous when I have a planned route and something goes rong or there is construction, but the thing is I usually always get through it and it sounds like you do as well! good luck on the house hunting! i know how stressful (as in stressful as me and my husband did not agree on the house until we found this one) that is, but so worth it when you finally move in and get settled. yay for all the progress you have made.Shelly https://www.blogger.com/profile/01111556226010142607noreply@blogger.com