tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post7025857503537020542..comments2023-10-16T16:18:08.461+01:00Comments on Living with Agoraphobia: Difficult DriveLynnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16985336897832589441noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-17499767361303545702008-12-11T01:07:00.000+00:002008-12-11T01:07:00.000+00:00You know, I became agor when my husband at the tim...You know, I became agor when my husband at the time was being a total jerk to me when we were driving from New York to Texas. I started freaking out in the car, the situation escalated, and 15 YEARS LATER I still can't go anywhere in the car without major tranquilizers. <BR/><BR/>So I think that was just a totally horrible thing, what happened to you. Today, I am married to a man who accepts me for who I am. He doesn't pressure me to do stuff, which frees me up to go further and further. We're actually going on a vacation in a week! I couldn't have done that without his support. <BR/><BR/>Please be careful who you decide to be with. I've found that the stress of an unhappy relationship can actually trigger this stuff. No way will it cure it. <BR/><BR/>Btw, I found your blog via Robert.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-17247701624435027942008-11-29T00:20:00.000+00:002008-11-29T00:20:00.000+00:00Hi.I lived with an abusive man for 6 years and i c...Hi.<BR/>I lived with an abusive man for 6 years and i can honestly say, its done me no favours!<BR/><BR/>xSarah♥https://www.blogger.com/profile/18014898105754256011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-23922996561469180342008-11-28T13:35:00.000+00:002008-11-28T13:35:00.000+00:00I have learned from it. It is hard enough to hand...I have learned from it. It is hard enough to hand over the control to someone else but when they react like that it makes it all the more difficult. Today however i am still feeling positive and proud of my achievements. I am not going to let that bring me down. I know he was wrong. At this moment in time i am not even speaking to him hah. He can have a good think about what he done and hopefully realise how wrong it was. I am now all dressed and heading out alone for a walk, which i will enjoy. After all its down to me now. :)Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16985336897832589441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-24927490718900216482008-11-28T06:51:00.000+00:002008-11-28T06:51:00.000+00:00Sigh. Surely he'll turn up inside 24 hours on his ...Sigh. Surely he'll turn up inside 24 hours on his knees with an apology? Surely he was just in a mood and will totally regret that tirade of insensitivity, discouragement and abuse?<BR/><BR/>I've been reading your blog all year Lynn, watching your excellent progress with managing your condition. I've said it before: I think agoraphobia treatment is all about 'management' not cure. It's about learning what our comfort zone is and then learning to work with and within it, not pushing the boundaries in order to live up to <I>anyone else's expectations</I>. <BR/><BR/>I guess misunderstandings abounded and you just got bullied out of your comfort zone today. It's spilled milk now of course, but you'll no doubt learn from the experience and maybe not to let it happen again.diverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058592730402414174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-77085252181195035632008-11-27T22:03:00.000+00:002008-11-27T22:03:00.000+00:00This comment has been removed by the author.diverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058592730402414174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-91485555054666652252008-11-27T21:56:00.000+00:002008-11-27T21:56:00.000+00:00Thanks Robert. Thats interesting, i never thought...Thanks Robert. Thats interesting, i never thought of it as bullying but someone else has said the same thing. Certainly makes you re-evalute things.Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16985336897832589441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-62826569792624684352008-11-27T21:46:00.000+00:002008-11-27T21:46:00.000+00:00If he doesn't apologise - soon - it's time to look...If he doesn't apologise - soon - it's time to look for someone else. Don't settle for a bully - you deserve better. Lots better!<BR/><BR/>You're doing well (on your own!). Congrats!<BR/><BR/>PS, Wonderful accent.Roberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08210753167984462321noreply@blogger.com