tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post3172757768146365272..comments2023-10-16T16:18:08.461+01:00Comments on Living with Agoraphobia: Moving OnLynnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16985336897832589441noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-5063949564792328872009-08-03T23:32:27.547+01:002009-08-03T23:32:27.547+01:00Lynn....
So Sorry for all that you have had to...Lynn....<br /> So Sorry for all that you have had to go through. I'm sure it is tough to share as well but it helps people like me who love your blog. I cannot imagine how you feel with having a miscarriage but I think you are going to get through it all better than you think. <br />About your friend John...I can see both sides and understand what he is going through...it's tough because sometimes with certain people the tougher approach (his parents just leaving) works and with certain people it doesn't. It all depends. I can understand how it feels to not have your safe person around. I agree with divers comment about activities keeping him busy during the hours he is alone. Something he really enjoys and would look foward to might keep his anxieties at a lower level if he is absorbed in something else. It might not happen right away but it will probably help somewhat....don't think it can hurt.MichelleBellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18313854050932863074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-29301719132822815552009-07-21T23:28:11.135+01:002009-07-21T23:28:11.135+01:00Very sorry about the miscarriage, but you appear t...Very sorry about the miscarriage, but you appear to be taking it incredibly well. You have far more inner strength than maybe you realise.Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062717140344359936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-81011707872934473982009-07-18T04:38:07.094+01:002009-07-18T04:38:07.094+01:00I agree with 'diver' - you are one gutsy w...I agree with 'diver' - you are one gutsy woman. I'm glad I stumbled upon your blog.Maxinehttp://slamup.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-87289528151020386482009-07-08T16:42:26.885+01:002009-07-08T16:42:26.885+01:00Dear lynn I am very sorry for your and Gerry's...Dear lynn I am very sorry for your and Gerry's loss. please do not allow your anxiety to keep you from following doctors orders. if you need the scan suck it up and go. After all you got home and you drove yourself and that is a good harbinger of future events isn't it?<br /> I dont really know what to say about the loss except as for telling people, i dont think you should give it a second thought. you were happy you are an open person. They are pleased i am sure that you chose to sahre with them. it means they are important to you.<br /> As for your friend "John" I agree with the therapist he must make himself move and progress as you have done and must continue to do. When you stay in your comfort zone you are not progressing. <br /> You know I understand the problem and have had the problems so i feel comfortable sounding harsh about moving out of your comfort zone. It is just something we have to do, get her done!<br /> Diver makes some good suggestions fill time dont think about alone and get up and go walk like Miss Lynn!<br /> And dear girl hang on to your faith tell john the same thing. Go to God Lynn I am sure you already have done so but i will still mention it. <br /> May God continue to bless you and all your efforts for your weblog and your life. Let us hear about the house search honey.<br />LouisLouishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18245283607497990521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-29177135244272237142009-07-08T04:21:28.213+01:002009-07-08T04:21:28.213+01:00Hi Lynn. A rollercoaster indeed :( it wouldn't...Hi Lynn. A rollercoaster indeed :( it wouldn't have surprised me if you'd posted about sliding into total hideout agoraphobia as a pissed off response to what you've been through, sort-of "if the world won't won't play fair with me then I won't play with the world at all". But hey you're <i>not</i> blogging like that. Instead you're toughing out this shock and trying to 'move on'. Wonderful Lynn, it's gutsy and inspiring of you I think.<br /><br />About John. FWIW I got nervy reading about the helper's 'forced exposure' approach, seemed a bit of a rough-house therapy to me. I dunno, maybe the 'helper' is a solid common-sense person who's sized John up and has good reasons for that recommendation. Then again, dependency issues with parents often have roots in childhood, possibly the sort of thing that a psychoanalyst (not <i>psychologist</i>!) could help John explore and get on top of ?<br /><br />If that's not relevant or an option then I'd suggest John just starts stockpiling activities - as many as he can find, so that when his parents are out he can <i>totally engage</i> himself - never a spare moment to ruminate, just keeping himself so busy that he barely notices his parents are absent ... hobbies, studies, exercise programs, housework, computer games, DVDs, obsessive blogging (lol), whatever it takes to absorb those anxious energies.diverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058592730402414174noreply@blogger.com