tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post1771518471111937098..comments2023-10-16T16:18:08.461+01:00Comments on Living with Agoraphobia: MumLynnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16985336897832589441noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-70647861858513492212009-01-26T18:45:00.000+00:002009-01-26T18:45:00.000+00:00Funny you say that Diver... it is actually very go...Funny you say that Diver... it is actually very good advice. Only today she mentioned that my dads alarm clock woke her to news of war and death. Now a great wake up for anyone never mind someone struggling with depression!Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16985336897832589441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-80117055884523993592009-01-26T05:14:00.000+00:002009-01-26T05:14:00.000+00:00Great idea Lynn (computer class); as was your offe...Great idea Lynn (computer class); as was your offer of a financial contribution. It must be so hard for your folks to be facing financial uncertainty at this particular time of life as well as in these difficult economic times. <BR/><BR/>The only practical suggestion I can think of might be to encourage your mum to <I>cut out</I> news and current affairs ... it's such a downer at the moment with all this economic doom and gloom talk - every word of it probably hurts her.<BR/><BR/>All the best to your family Lynn, fingers crossed for you all through this (hopefully brief) tough phase!diverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058592730402414174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-75559237268290851802009-01-25T13:42:00.000+00:002009-01-25T13:42:00.000+00:00Hey Caz thanks for you comment. I think its a goo...Hey Caz thanks for you comment. I think its a good idea that you suggest giving my mum tasks. My dad is actually doing ok now that hes been on his training course. It was worse when all he did was sit around the house all day, hes just not used to it. My mum has been complaining that the world is moving way to fat for her and that she cant work computers or even send a text, so when she is feeling a bit better i am going to look into a night time computer class. Its nothing too difficult, just held at the local school but it will teach her the basics and she wont feel so left out.Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16985336897832589441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-43699499487752595222009-01-25T09:29:00.000+00:002009-01-25T09:29:00.000+00:00I also think you are going the best you can Lynn -...I also think you are going the best you can Lynn - there really isn't much else you can do. I guess the only advice I have, and feel free to ignore it, is that, while you can do everything you possibly can to help them, it may be better if you can find small tasks that they can tackle themselves. I should imagine that both your mum and your dad's confidence and self-esteem are pretty low right now and need a bit of a boost. They may feel they are achieving more if you can find little ways for them to do things as well - even if it means trying to think of things that they could do better than you to try and convince them. It might just help them feel they can still contribute too, rather than being looked after. <BR/><BR/>I don't know if that makes sense, or is a fair comment, but I do know that with depression it is very easy to learn to feel helpless and useless, and trying to gently show them that they clearly are not, and that they can still contribute so much to family life, may help boost their spirits a little bit.<BR/><BR/>Good luck with the job hunting - it's a difficult climate to be searching in. It probably doesn't help much but you could try really selling your dad's experience and strengths - it's illegal for him to be turned down due to his age, but unfortunately many companies still ignore this. <BR/><BR/>Caz xMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13929316606608291483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3914969552005146177.post-5116622513829975662009-01-24T18:20:00.000+00:002009-01-24T18:20:00.000+00:00I think you are doing the best you can lynn. Its ...I think you are doing the best you can lynn. Its great that she has a daughter like you. I guess you have to ask yourself what would advice you would give if it was my mum? you are doing a great job. maybe her seeing you getting out and about a bit more makes her start to think about her life she probualy just needs somthing new and interesting do do to pick herself up. Hope she feels better soon xxKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08244467139343665091noreply@blogger.com